We put so much pressure on "Love" We look for that perfect person to complete us & in the midst of our depravity find love to be such a struggle. Our flesh is pulled to that manufactured romance on the movie screens...
What we find in a soul mate is not something wild to tame but something wild to run with. We connect with certain people & feel like "For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. it was not my lips you kissed, but my soul" Instead of embracing differences we try to mold what we need out of a person, often times what our inner self lacks, instead of spurring on that person to greatness & purpose. Approaching a relationship or a connection with the feeling/thought of "you are the kind of mystery I wouldn't mind spending the rest of my life trying to unravel...that mystery of how/why/ & for what purpose has God made this person. Getting to a point where our perspective is that Love is the action it takes to put ourselves in second place. And ultimately not letting "love" be our demise. Our constant pursuit/idol/and possibly sadness. When all along true love was by your side the entire time.
"For God is sheer beauty, all generous in love, loyal always & ever" Psalm 100:5 MSG
"God, my Shephard, I don't need a thing. You have bedded me down in lush meadows, you find me quiet pools to drink from. True to your word you let me catch my breath, and send me in the right direction. Even when the way goes through Death Valley, I am not afraid when you walk at my side. You serve me a six course dinner right in front of my enemies. You revive my drooping head, my cup brims with blessing. Your beauty and love chase after me every day of my life. I'm back home in the house of God for the rest of my life." Psalm 23 MSG